We’ve all been there. Even if you don’t have a blog…you’ve been there. The countless images on your phone, the constant editing, and the disappointment when the likes don’t roll in. The social pressure of creating the perfect life online is too real.
We live in a world of constant pressure, social pressure more exactly, especially online. And that’s most likely not going to go away any time soon. It seems that everyone is in competition over the perfect life, and thanks to social media (specifically Instagram/IG Stories) it’s possible. Yes, it’s possible to create the perfect life on Instagram. But do people see right through it? Of course.
No one’s life is perfect. In fact, we’re all dealing with things that make our lives far from perfect. But there’s no way we’d wanna share those types of details with everyone. I mean, no one wants to be a Debbie Downer, right? I don’t know about you but I love seeing how people curate their perfect lives…a lot of people are really good at it. This doesn’t mean that the social pressure still isn’t there for a lot of us.
Let’s take a look at the photos from today’s post. Just a girl walking around Central Park with some hydrangeas, taking in the scenery in her favorite summer dress with no one around to bother her.
Want to know how this shoot really went down?
I was rushing uptown after work to meet Allie, and I didn’t have any time to pick up flowers…so she did it for me (she’s the bomb). Oh and it was also about three million degrees outside…on top of the fact I was already sweating from being on the subway and carrying three bags. It also just happened that Gapstow Bridge was DIRECTLY in the sun. And when I sat on the bridge, my butt was burning. Really bad. Basically, Allie and I were complaining the entire time, which we typically tend to do when it’s hot out (we HATE the heat). We had to pause about every five minutes so I could get myself together and make sure my hair didn’t look too wet with sweat. There were also a TON of people walking into our shots, trying to get their own perfect photo of The Plaza for their social media accounts.
Yet, here are the photos. And they seem to tell a different story, right? (They’re honestly a few of my favorite photos EVER.)
The social pressure of making sure you’re creating post-worthy content isn’t a new issue. It’s been around for quite some time now. And I’d be lying if I said I haven’t let the social pressure get to me. Here are some of the things I’ve personally faced:
Be the best of the best
Of course there will always be competition between influencers. Sometimes it’s friendly, sometimes people take it to a whole new level of ugly. While I think competition is healthy to a certain extent, there may come a point when your life revolves around it. YOU want to be able to shoot at the best locations. YOU want to work harder than your competitors. YOU want to try out this new restaurant and post it before anyone else. YOU want to work with a specific brand before anyone else. And I have to admit, with these thoughts in my mind, it’s definitely lead me to create content that I’m really proud of. I have to constantly challenge myself to think outside the box, and force myself to use my creative side more often. I do need to make something clear though, I LOVE seeing my favorite girls succeeding: Bryn taking over LOFT’s Instagram Stories this weekend, Linda signing her first big collaboration with a major brand, Alicia & Laura Leigh taking their blogs full-time — it all makes me feel so honored to know these hard-working ladies!
Feeling like a failure
But what happens when my “perfect” Instagram photo doesn’t do well? Does that mean my followers don’t appreciate my content? Are my followers even seeing my content (Ugh. Thanks to that stupid algorithm.)? Or if I’m out and about and forgot to create the cutest little Instagram story? Does that mean that I’m not doing my job as an influencer because I’m not sharing every detail of my life? These are some of the questions I ask myself a lot. I try not to get too caught up in it because I really try to live my life in the moment. I try to enjoy each and every opportunity given to me, and really try to unplug when I need it. When it comes to blogging, I definitely feel guilty if I don’t get a post up because I was too lazy to write it. I know that breaks are important, but I also know that people come here to read Pink Champagne Problems. That means I need to make sure I deliver. Sometimes, I feel “guilty” for spending my time offline. I know that’s silly and I know I shouldn’t feel that way, but I sure do sometimes. It also goes back to being the best of the best = social pressure issues. How am I supposed to hang with the big dogs if I can’t even get a post up?!
The mental exhaustion
Social pressure definitely leads to a lot of people saying it’s not fun anymore. How sh*tty is that?! Look, I started my blog when blogging really wasn’t a “thing”. Over the years, I’ve had a ton of fun working on Pink Champagne Problems, and the thought of the fun aspect slowing down isn’t cool. I’m lucky enough that these thoughts don’t happen too often. But I truly get what people mean when they say it’s not fun anymore. But why isn’t it fun at one point or another? Well, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t roll my eyes when my alarm went off because I needed to get up early to create sale posts before everyone else did, or get so annoyed when I HAD to get an Instagram post up at 9:30PM even though I’m out with my friends. Blogging and social media have become so much more than just sharing snippets of your life or your outfits. They’ve become people’s businesses. Think about how some people have made an insane living by sharing their lives on social media. Crazy, right? For me, although Pink Champagne Problems isn’t my sole career, it’s definitely a big part of me. It’s my brand. And you know what? That gets exhausting. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE what I do here. But man, sharing your life online gets exhausting. I think that’s why I’ve begun writing more posts like this one today. I’m tired of sharing “Oh look at my perfect outfit, that you should totally shop and help me make some money,”…and leaving it at that. I want you to gain something by coming here. Of course, fashion will ALWAYS be my number one focus because it is what I love more than anything, but who says you can’t post a cute outfit while sharing you thoughts on social pressure? Because that’s what I just did;)
The shame game
Social media platforms are double-edge swords. Over the last four and a half years, I’ve been part of an AMAZING community. And although it’s not always all cheery and nice, I’ve met some incredible people who are so inspiring. Those are the people who I can always count on for sweet words that brighten up my day and whose opinions matter SO much to me! Whether these people are readers or bloggers, I’m really grateful to have these platforms to connect with others! Then there’s the other end of the sword. When scrolling through your Instagram feed, you’re bound to see photos that make you feel pretty bad about yourself: The girl who has the “perfect body” (I wrote about body confidence in this post), the girl who is on the most amazing European vacation, the girl who has the expensive bag you’ve been coveting, or the girl who pushes out content like no other. We’ve ALL run into these types of girls before…and we’ve all may have had similar feelings. I really try to look past my jealousy and genuinely be happy for people. It helps when I reflect on my own life and realize that it’s a pretty damn good one! When I think about just how good I have it, these silly feelings tend to disappear.
Because social media is such a integral part of our every day lives (whether you’re a blogger or not), I don’t think the social pressure we deal with will ever go away. It’s how we DEAL with it in a healthy and positive way that matters. Don’t you agree? How do you find yourself dealing with the social pressure of living this Instagram-worthy life? Let me know in the comments below!
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