Want me to let you in on a little secret? I’m not as skinny as I used to be. Whoa. Groundbreaking information. I know.
I’m part of a huge community that is all about how you look (a.k.a the blogging community). There are SO many types of bodies out there: skinny, petite, curvy, pear, athletic, hourglass, etc. Somewhere along the lines, we (I) start to think about my own body and then about my body confidence.
Let’s backtrack to the end of high school. I ran every single day for 4 years and ate whatever the heck I wanted. And I was only about 90 pounds. Then, I went to college and stopped running like I used to…and still ate whatever the heck I wanted. Naturally, weight gain happened. I’ll admit: I’m happy I initially gained weight, because I feel like I was too thin in high school.
Fast-forward to the present and I pretty much fluctuate between being 30-40 pounds heavier than I was in high school. Am I totally happy with my body? No, not at all. But am I working towards being happy with my body? Absolutely.
The pressure to be skinny is so real. Whether it’s an industry pressure or self-pressure, it’s a real thing. Let’s face it: I’m not 6 feet tall and don’t have legs for days. I’m, in fact, quite the opposite. I’m 5’2, my hips are very much a thing, and have legs that resemble tree stumps. My stomach is mushy and I don’t have a thigh gap. But at the end of the day, I need to learn to love my body.
Body confidence is tough. I know we’ve all been there.
I run a blog that focuses on sharing outfits so that others can purchase items. It’s not just so I can make money because you clicked a link. It’s also so I can inspire you to feel good in what you wear.
So that’s why I put on this black bodycon dress and tested my body confidence.
It took me a few minutes to get used to seeing myself in a very tight dress. A dress that shows every single curve, lump, dimple, etc. But after a while, I just embraced it. I ran with it. I took photos in a dress that I thought I wouldn’t feel comfortable in.
Pink Champagne Problems is meant to be a positive space, and that obviously starts with me being positive not only for myself but also for all of you. So today, I wanted to share a few tips on how to gain some body confidence!
Stop with the shaming. Seriously. I tell myself at least once a day that I’m not skinny enough. Or where I want to be. Instead of being negative, I need to spin it and think about what I can be doing to get to where I want to be! Do I want my stomach to be less mushy? Then I need to tell myself that I need to do some more cardio work in the gym to get a stronger core.
Wear clothes that make you feel sexy. This dress did that for me. Although at first I was not comfortable, I learned that it’s 100% okay to want to show off my curves. By the end of the shoot, I was wearing this dress proudly. I love that it’s different than what I normally wear.
Be nice to yourself. Why are we so hard on ourselves? We spend our time being so nice to others (I hope), and we should be equally as nice to ourselves! Give yourself some love! Identify a body part that you love and go with it! Flaunt it. Do whatever it takes to make you give yourself that extra lovin’!
Actions matter. This really goes hand-in-hand with the shaming. Instead of getting down on myself for not looking the way I want, I need to do something about it! Whether it’s an extra day at the gym or one less cookie during the week, actions will speak louder than words.
Be proud of the work you ARE putting in. I know that if I get to the gym 3-4 times a week or eat super healthy, I’m going to be proud of myself. It takes a lot of work to love yourself and you DESERVE to be proud of that. It’s okay to have some slip ups or to treat yourself every once in a while.
So there you have it: just a few tips on body confidence and how I plan on remaining positive about my body image. What are YOUR tips on gaining confidence in your body? I want to know!
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